Does this sound eerily familiar?
The alarm goes off and youâre exhausted. Youâve hit the snooze button a couple of times and after 20 minutes, you summon up enough energy to get out of bed. While trudging to the bathroom, you pull back the shades from the window, but not too much to wake your spouse. It’s pitch black outside and a frost of ice is covering the lawn.
It’s freezing waiting for the train to arrive. The 6:30 a.m. was canceled and a large crowd is forming. Of course, there are no seats available when the train doors open. Some rude person has his bags strategically placed on the seat next to him. He averts your glare and you start shaking with anger, wanting to punch him in his smug face as he nonchalantly pretends that there is not a crowd of people desperate for a seat.
For the next hour, you are are standing, squeezed next to a bunch of other sleepy commuters all trying to maintain their balance as the train shakes along. You feel a wave of something come over you. It’s like youâre tired, but worse. It’s a feeling of just wanting to crawl back into bed. It’s like you can’t take it anymore. One day bleeds into another and another and another. You feel as if you are on a river and it’s slowly pulling you down the stream heading toward a steep drop off and there is nothing you can do to stop it. It reminds you of one of those winding, lazy river rides at the amusement park where you go with your kids. It’s not too swift, but steadily winds down to a drop off. You can twirl a little or bump into others, but it will take you off a drop at the end and there is nothing you can do to stop it.
You stop at Starbucks and there is a long line, so you leave without getting your cup of fuel. Muscle memory makes you produce your ID card to the security guard, someone sees you coming toward the elevator and hits âdoor closeâ because she couldn’t be bothered to wait. The day goes by in a slow-motion dazeâbanal good morning pleasantries, boring tedious meetings, a cold and tasteless sandwich at the desk, boss barking at you and the team, then another dreadful commute home.
Your wife is telling you about her day, the kids are arguing, the dogs barking at something and the television left on in the other room is blaring. One of the kids yells at the other for taking the last slice of pizza and you lose it! You bang the table and scream at your son for taking the pizza, berate your daughter for the fuss and end up in a shouting match with your wife. Â You storm off, fall into the couch, watch some football, drink a beer and eat leftover, cold pizza until you lose consciousness and fall asleep. Then, it starts all over again, and again and again.
As I see it, you have two choices. The first option is to mindlessly drift down on the doughnut-shaped floating device to where it falls off the drop and the ride abruptly ends. This is accepting the status quo, going along with the flow, not making waves and letting others and outside circumstances rule your life. The second option is to immediately take back control.
Iâm only interested in the second selection. If you want the first offering, please don’t bother reading further. You only have one life and need to make it count. Here is what to do right now; Iâll make it real easy for you.
You need to also work on your personal life as well. Â Cut down on the late nights at the office. Pay attention to your spouse and children. Listen to them when they talk. Donât sit in front of the television or stay glued to your phone. Cut out the poor eating habits. Go for long walks, take up a sport, meditate and partake in uplifting activities. Find a job with a shorter commute. To be successful in your career, it is mission critical to be in the right state of mind, physical and emotional health. Also, it’s important to have a life.
The river will keep trying to drag you in one direction, but there is no reason why you should complacently let it happen without a fight.